I hate the word “emo”…

21 07 2008
… in relation to people who deal with depression / cutting / suicide / etc. I feel it trivializes the problems that they have to deal with, i.e. “Oh, they’re just being emo,” or “They only cut because it’s a fad and they’re emo”. Maybe some people just do that sort of thing to look cool or something, but I think that the majority of people that do this do deal with some sort of depression.

I saw a “bumper sticker” the other day on that wonderful Facebook application. It was a picture that was showing the proper way to cut yourself (“Down the road, not across the street” or something). It made me pretty angry that people think this is so funny. People that deal with this are looking for something / someone to help them and have problems they can’t deal with on their own. If you have friends who struggle with this, don’t ignore it or pretend it isn’t there. Stick with them and help them through it. You might be the person who saves their life. Of course, this is easier to write about than actually do in real life (as I’ve come to learn), but don’t just do nothing and leave them to themselves.

Not just that, but talk to people who don’t cut but just seem depressed all the time. Their problems may seem trivial or minor to you, but that’s just because you’re not dealing with the same thing they are. Some people take things a lot more seriously than you might. Just because a certain issue wouldn’t be a big deal for you, doesn’t mean it’s not the world to someone else.

A good lyric to keep in mind is from the Skillet song “The Last Night”:

“I’m so sick of when they say
It’s just a phase, you’ll be o.k. you’re fine
But I know it’s a lie”

Please never, ever say this to a person, it will only make things worse for them and bring them more hopelessness. Just pray, and let them know you’ll be there for them.

(originally written 2/18/08 )



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